Why Don't Black Men Like Nappy Hair On Their Black Women?
I think our ‘hair’ story is as simple as the evolution of sexual nature for productive reproduction:
First, for the sake of my following theory; I want to give you a mental visual:
Imagine in your mind, if a man; a beautiful naked woman, first with long hair down the middle of her back, whether nappy or straight, and then same woman with ear length hair, whether nappy or straight.
Ladies, same visual, only picture a man, handsome as Denzel (or whoever you think is fine as fine), nappy, straight or, (if, hopefully not, IMO, baldL---naked and…4’11”…
It’s all about our hormones necessary to stimulate sexual activity for increasing human population.
The Hormones: (1.) Estrogen (2.) Testosterone, both well known, working along with (3.) Oxytocin, the ‘cuddling’ or bonding hormone released during childbirth, breast feeding, and during orgasm, co existing (we hope) with the neurotransmitter Dopamine, commonly associated with the pleasure system of the brain, providing feelings of enjoyment and reinforcement to motivate a person proactively to perform certain activities with anticipatory desire and motivation (commonly referred to as "wanting") is released by naturally rewarding experiences such as food, sex, drugs, ect.
Last, but definitely not the least, in fact, first, since it is the MOST important for first impression or initial chemical attraction- the role of (4.) Oestrogens; a hair growth hormone for sexual attraction, found in both men and women.
Notice it was first (with modern man)-in Africa wearing as little covering as possible and loving long nappy hair (or for the godly, the Garden of Eden), then barbaric men going to war and putting their women in heavy armor and taking the key with them (??????) and now in some countries, same barbaric idiots, forcing their women cover their head and face with dark cloths and wear a bunch of hot azz clothes.
What is the common theme in the changes from there, to today? Common knowledge of the beauty and sexual attraction of a head of full, long hair, from the beginning of time, has always been an indicator of fertility and sexuality in females. Just as being muscular, solid, and tall-implied security and stamina, as their long locks implied virility, in males.
It is human nature to look for the best person to intimately bond with for the most optimum results. Our hormones help us make the best decision, if we listen.
Hormones rock, if you understand their purpose and don’t live in a fairy tale world…
Another visual, for my sisters and brothers: Imagine black men shaving their nappy heads and gluing fake, straight weave on their heads so they can “look good” (and white).
So, now for my sisters and fake hair: This too was a cruelly instilled manipulation. When we came to this country, 100’s of years ago, we (everyone in general, sisters specifically) had our heads shaved and our naked bodies exposed and molested for resale. The ‘owners’ wives had our head shaved and bodies scrubbed as if we were farm animals working inside their homes and around their children. When it began to grow back, we were to wrap it in scarves to make sure no one saw our hair. To them, it looked like pubic hair-curly or nappy, and was considered indecent and lewd.
Black men, being men, sexually attracted by long hair, were naturally attracted to white women’s long hair, as black women were attracted to the long hair of white men, since most slaves, male or female, were bald or short haired. Females forced to breed babies for these straight haired men saw it gave their offspring the chance for “acceptable” hair at birth and in life for survival of their children in this strange world. Miseducated…
Now, into the 21st century:
Today, after decades of damaging chemicals, colors, perms, weaves and wigs, many black women THINK they can only look sexually attractive wearing hair they believe MOST black men admire AND find sexually attractive-fake, long and straight (some even blond)-not nappy, full, long, and soft. Not the way it used to be before Madame CJ Walker became a millionaire off of black women by convincing us having bone straight, never graying, soft and swinging hair is the standard for beauty to black men.
Brothers, was Ms. Walker right?
First, for the sake of my following theory; I want to give you a mental visual:
Imagine in your mind, if a man; a beautiful naked woman, first with long hair down the middle of her back, whether nappy or straight, and then same woman with ear length hair, whether nappy or straight.
Ladies, same visual, only picture a man, handsome as Denzel (or whoever you think is fine as fine), nappy, straight or, (if, hopefully not, IMO, baldL---naked and…4’11”…
It’s all about our hormones necessary to stimulate sexual activity for increasing human population.
The Hormones: (1.) Estrogen (2.) Testosterone, both well known, working along with (3.) Oxytocin, the ‘cuddling’ or bonding hormone released during childbirth, breast feeding, and during orgasm, co existing (we hope) with the neurotransmitter Dopamine, commonly associated with the pleasure system of the brain, providing feelings of enjoyment and reinforcement to motivate a person proactively to perform certain activities with anticipatory desire and motivation (commonly referred to as "wanting") is released by naturally rewarding experiences such as food, sex, drugs, ect.
Last, but definitely not the least, in fact, first, since it is the MOST important for first impression or initial chemical attraction- the role of (4.) Oestrogens; a hair growth hormone for sexual attraction, found in both men and women.
Notice it was first (with modern man)-in Africa wearing as little covering as possible and loving long nappy hair (or for the godly, the Garden of Eden), then barbaric men going to war and putting their women in heavy armor and taking the key with them (??????) and now in some countries, same barbaric idiots, forcing their women cover their head and face with dark cloths and wear a bunch of hot azz clothes.
What is the common theme in the changes from there, to today? Common knowledge of the beauty and sexual attraction of a head of full, long hair, from the beginning of time, has always been an indicator of fertility and sexuality in females. Just as being muscular, solid, and tall-implied security and stamina, as their long locks implied virility, in males.
It is human nature to look for the best person to intimately bond with for the most optimum results. Our hormones help us make the best decision, if we listen.
Hormones rock, if you understand their purpose and don’t live in a fairy tale world…
Another visual, for my sisters and brothers: Imagine black men shaving their nappy heads and gluing fake, straight weave on their heads so they can “look good” (and white).
So, now for my sisters and fake hair: This too was a cruelly instilled manipulation. When we came to this country, 100’s of years ago, we (everyone in general, sisters specifically) had our heads shaved and our naked bodies exposed and molested for resale. The ‘owners’ wives had our head shaved and bodies scrubbed as if we were farm animals working inside their homes and around their children. When it began to grow back, we were to wrap it in scarves to make sure no one saw our hair. To them, it looked like pubic hair-curly or nappy, and was considered indecent and lewd.
Black men, being men, sexually attracted by long hair, were naturally attracted to white women’s long hair, as black women were attracted to the long hair of white men, since most slaves, male or female, were bald or short haired. Females forced to breed babies for these straight haired men saw it gave their offspring the chance for “acceptable” hair at birth and in life for survival of their children in this strange world. Miseducated…
Now, into the 21st century:
Today, after decades of damaging chemicals, colors, perms, weaves and wigs, many black women THINK they can only look sexually attractive wearing hair they believe MOST black men admire AND find sexually attractive-fake, long and straight (some even blond)-not nappy, full, long, and soft. Not the way it used to be before Madame CJ Walker became a millionaire off of black women by convincing us having bone straight, never graying, soft and swinging hair is the standard for beauty to black men.
Brothers, was Ms. Walker right?
Replies to This Discussion
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Permalink Reply by kevin black on -
I'm not a brother...........I'm a sister, but can I say that I really don't think it ultimately matters too much what another person perceives me to be on the outside. I believe what matters more is who I KNOW I am on the inside. I don't feel that I or any other woman should have to measure ourselves or our worth with the "ruler of white women". If we measure/compare ourselves to anyone, or aspire to be like any other, it should be Christ. Other women or men who see us as "just hair", I would consider vain. I am more than my hair! (K.W.)
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Permalink Reply by kevin black on
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And speaking of hair.................DON IMUS...............Isn't this the pot calling the kettle black? Has this man looked in the mirror lately? He is not exactly "eye candy"!
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Permalink Reply by kevin black on
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"The pot calling the kettle black" is an analogy. Don (the pot) Imus's PERCEIVED description of the Rutgers Womens Basketball team (the kettle) could also be a description of himself if he looked in the mirror.
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Permalink Reply by kntqueen on -
Don Imus is NOT a Sister with Nappy Hair. The original question is "Why Brothers DON'T like Nappy Hair on their women?"
I still have not gotten a GOOD answer to this question. MY OPINION: Because they have been fooled into believing long, silky, straight hair is MORE sexy or appealing than Nappy Hair.
So please, if you can, respond to the fact, MOST brothers prefer hair texture of while women.
Why do I think brothers have this preference is due to the fact of the American Dream is a large home, big vehicle, a large breasted, blond white women with 2 or more white looking children? What was originally, the Ideal american dream of white men has now become the dream Most black men. Or, black women would wear their own hair without the fear of competing with the european standard of beauty, and discontinue buying hair completely the opposite of their own or lightening their skin tone. IMO...
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Permalink Reply by kntqueen on
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kevin black said:I'm not a brother...........I'm a sister, but can I say that I really don't think it ultimately matters too much what another person perceives me to be on the outside. I believe what matters more is who I KNOW I am on the inside. I don't feel that I or any other woman should have to measure ourselves or our worth with the "ruler of white women". If we measure/compare ourselves to anyone, or aspire to be like any other, it should be Christ. Other women or men who see us as "just hair", I would consider vain. I am more than my hair! (K.W.)
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Permalink Reply by kntqueen on
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I get it about what 'you' perceive yourself to be on the inside, but our initial visual is the first impression and it's all about the 'outside' view.
They have to be attracted before they will approach and find out about what you are on the inside, agree?
It's the same for females. If a brother came at you in a wig or weave that was straight and blond, what would be your first impression. Be honest...
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Permalink Reply by kevin black on
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You can't put all men in the same boat. What one man finds attractive is not necessarily what another man will find attractive. Just like all women do not have the same tastes, neither do all men have the same tastes.
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Permalink Reply by kntqueen on
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All men do not have the 'same' taste; but non black men of ALL ethnic groups are MOST likely to date/marry women who resemble their mothers. Most Non Black men do not choose women who have nappy hair, even those who date/marry black women, do so with black women who have 'straightened' hair.
I just find it strange, MOST black men approach/date/marry women who have straightened hair unlike their own nappy roots.
Never seen Black women (or any women) ask black men to straighten their hair in order to be more attractive...
Have you?
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Permalink Reply by kntqueen on
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Re: Don Imus, facts are not ONE of the basketball players on that court was wearing their own nappy hair. Each one of the Black girl's hair was straightened/weaved. Nor was there a white girl on their team wearing a nappy wig.
Don Imus knew being 'brown', their naturally, unaltered hair was nappy. The real insult in his comment was his assumption ALL the girl's who had naturally nappy hair was hoes-by mere definition of being colored.
His information came from Hip Hop lyrics where Black men refer to Sisters as 'nappy headed hoes'.
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